Sunday, 29 April 2018

The Wholesome-Party Struggle

Dungarees: ASOS, Jumper: Daisy Street ASOS, Backpack: Topshop (couple of years old), Shoes: ASOS

I’m a lot closer to thirty than I am to twenty and with that comes a lot of things.

I am getting aches and pains for no apparent reason, what’s that about? I’m also incredibly sleepy all of the time. And youths, youths are becoming unbelievably annoying. Were we really all once that annoying?

Anyway, another thing that has happened to me is that I am starting to really love having wholesome weekends with not a drop of alcohol in sight. 

I love doing nothing, I do it so well. It’s one of few skills I have in life. And I mean few skills. Why didn’t someone force me to pick up an instrument other than a recorder when I was a child. I blame the parents.

However, as much as I love it I also feel guilty when I don’t go out.

Now, I’m not exactly not going out. If anything this year has started with a ridiculous amount of late nights and horrific hangovers (another side effect of getting older, give me strength).

In the past month especially I was way more party than wholesome. I got drunk every single weekend with a few mid week sessions in-between.

And I thoroughly enjoyed every single booze filled moment.

I’m young. The 20s are apparently the best time of my life, at least until I’m in my 30s. I need to be carefree and reckless. Live impulsively, drink too much, eat too much, travel often, never say no, etcetera, etcetera. 

I should be out there making the most out of life every single day…but also, I kinda just want to do a spot of sitting.

Sitting down in my comfy clothes, under a blanket with dim lighting.

So basically I’m torn between having wholesome weekends and having party weekends. I really want to make sure I am getting the right balance between both. 

I don’t want to wake up one day thinking why didn’t I go out when I was young with no responsibilities???

But I also don’t want to keep wasting money on alcohol and dealing with hangxiety. Hangxiety is the actual worst, especially when it’s combined with the Sunday evening blues. Gives me palpitations just thinking about it.

So I guess what I’m saying in a rambling kind of way (it’s late at night while I'm writing this, so apologies if it doesn’t flow that well) is that I want to make sure I set aside a decent amount of time to good old fashioned wholesome fun. Sleepovers, walks in the woods and movie nights amongst other things.

But I will also say yes to as many things as possible. I am definitely one of those people who make plans and then completely regret it on the day, but I always end up having a lot of fun.

I want to be more wholesome but I’m not quite ready to put the party shoes away just yet…


Saturday, 28 April 2018

Podcasts: The Female Edition

Who run the world?

A couple of months ago I rummaged through cast box in search of some new podcasts and found some absolute gems. I am always on the lookout for something new to listen to, even more so since I switched jobs and my commute time has doubled (sad face). And as the title of this post alludes to, I found a lot of really great ones ran by *drum roll*…..girls! 

So let’s get right into them…

Ctrl Alt Delete

I actually download this one a while ago but I don’t think I have included it in a post yet and that needs to be rectified immediately. I absolutely LOVE this podcast, I look forward to listening to it every week. It was created and is ran by Emma Gannon, and is named after her first book. She has so far interviewed a kaleidoscope of guests including Lena Durham, Alice Levine, Will Young, Ava Duvernay and Deborah Francis-White to name a few. As stated in the podcast description, Emma “interviews people I admire about the themes in my book Ctr Alt Delete” on topics such as “the internet, social media, feminism, creativity, identity, mental health, life, careers and everything in-between”. 

Each time I listen to this podcast I feel inspired to do something. It is so interesting to learn about how people got to where they are, the journey they've been on and the risks they had to take. The conversations are always so candid and people are fairly open about the struggles they underwent to gain success, which is highly refreshing and motivating. 

I have quite a few favourite episodes by now. I recently watched 13th on Netflix so when I saw Ava Duvernay was a guest I got very excited. She talked a lot about her new film Wrinkle In Time, which seems to be making waves in the film industry. She divulges that she did not pick up a camera until she was 33 years old, so to all those people like me reaching 30 and wondering what the hell they’re doing with their life - it’s never too late to ‘pick up a camera’. 

Keeping It Candid

Hosted by Millie Cotton & Sophie Milner, this weekly podcasts talks about a bunch of stuff including “current events, pop culture and everything else”. I only discovered this podcast around a month ago but they started it in July last year, originally as a fortnightly podcast. They now release a new episode every week which is great news for me as I am already hooked and eagerly awaiting each new episode!

So what do they talk about. Well, they are very open about their careers and talk very candidly (aptly named podcast) about the ins and outs of being a blogger/influencer, I say influencer very carefully as they cringe at that term. What I really like about them is how prepared they are to voice opinions on things, which in this day and age is a bit of a minefield as everybody gets offended by everything. 

A few of my favourite episodes include Questions To Ask Your Ex where they brazenly discuss their past and current relationships, What We Really Earn From Instagram & Blogging with special guest Chloe Plumstead where they unreservedly talk about how much they get paid and Boobs & Bras; Comfort Confidence and *Sexy* Underwear in collaboration with Sloggi which was actually a sponsored post but they did it so seamlessly. 

Tea & Tattle

Teat & Tattle is a weekly podcast hosted by Miranda Mills and Sophie Butler. They discuss their “favourite books, style tips, happiness boosters and more”. The episodes are either just them talking with each other or interviewing “creative, successful women” including “writers, artists, bloggers and makers”. I used to listen to this podcast all the time, but then I lost my phone and forgot to re-subscribe when I got my new phone. Long story short (too late) I luckily remembered the other day and I have been playing catch up ever since. 

They offer intelligent conversation across a range of topics including their favourite books (particularly boarding school themed books), tips on life and all things creative. Listening to this podcast is akin to curling up with a good book in your favourite arm chair. It’s very wholesome, for want of a better word. 

Some of my favourite episodes are going to be their older ones as I am still playing catch up. I loved the episode on Hygge, I had heard the term before but didn’t really know what it was so I was happy to learn more. I absolutely loved the episode where Miranda interviewed Dominique Davis on how to build a capsule wardrobe. Dominique has a maximum of 30 items in her wardrobe at any one time, I really need to take a leaf out of her book. I say that but I’ve just placed two online orders, oops. I also found the Tips For Starting A New Job really interesting and comforting, it’s hard to starting a new job and it’s good to know other people get the same worries you do.

The Fringe Of It

The Fringe of it is a fairly new podcast, the pilot episode was in February this year. However this is another that is quickly becoming one of my faves that I eagerly await each week. It’s ran by Liv Purvis and Charlotte Jacklin and is about “out of touch early grandma’s…navigating their way through millennial life”. 

Over the past year I have really started to love the grandma life, I am spending a lot more nights at home eating pizza instead of ‘hitting the club’ until 4am. So I am really enjoying listening to these two talk about their early grandma ways. They start each episode talking about what they’ve been up to, what they’ve been buying and what they’ve been watching amongst other things, before diving into a topic. 

As I said it’s fairly new, I think there has been about 9 episodes to date, so hard to pick out any faves just yet. I have really enjoyed each one from their pilot discussing friendship to their most recent one discussing talking to strangers, as well as everything in-between, such as people pleasing, getting out of a funk and stress.

I also want to give The Guilty Feminist a little shout out, however I have gone into this one in a previous post. I have also started listening to Two Dope Queens which is hilarious, but I haven’t listened to enough to go into lots of detail on them just yet. 

If you have any podcasts that you love then please let me know in the comment section below. I zoom through all my current ones so quickly, I need more!
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